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Translated from Arabic by Salar Abdoh<\/p>\n
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The war was a plague. It began before I was born and affected the lives of all of us who lived close to the Iran-Iraq border. Bombing raids forced us to move constantly, from one town to another, time and again. It was during one of these departures that I was born. 1984. The war was already four years old. A few months earlier one of my brothers had started going to the frontlines without telling anyone. He was only 16 and I would never know him. Now and then he\u2019d come home \u2014 wherever home was at the time \u2014 and tell everyone he\u2019d gone faraway to continue his studies. I\u2019m told it was during one of these brief visits that he named me Maryam.<\/p>\n
One day, however, he didn\u2019t come back and the family finally knew it was the war he\u2019d been disappearing into each time. Before long a young man who had been at the front with him showed up to tell us they\u2019d served together for a time, but he didn\u2019t know what had become of my brother. This was all we had. A vague report from a near and far war for us Arabic speakers in Iran\u2019s southwest province of Khuzestan.<\/p>\n
The war finally ended in 1988, but still no sign of my brother. Missing in action, they called it. No one could tell us for sure if he\u2019d been martyred or was a prisoner of war. A year later the first prisoner exchanges between the two countries started. All those buses full of freed men smiling and waving to a country that awaited them with open arms. Now they were no longer the missing; instead they were called \u201cthe freed.\u201d Their names preceded them in all of the newspapers so that families would know who was on a bus coming from Iraq and they could rush to welcome them. War\u2019s end had truly arrived at last for these families and new lives were beginning.<\/p>\n
In the mornings my mother would head to the marketplace and return with her basket filled with fruits and vegetables. Sometimes she\u2019d bring a little toy that she\u2019d picked up for us kids on her way, and always the day\u2019s newspaper was pressed on top of that basket. She\u2019d carefully go through the listings of the latest freed prisoners printed in the newspaper, making the search last as long as possible. And every day her search would end in disappointment. She was waiting, and I was waiting for her to transform: since I did not remember my brother at all; what feelings I had for him were really for my mother\u2019s sake, for the sake of seeing her happy at last, seeing her dress in colors again and put away the black that she\u2019d worn ever since his disappearance.<\/p>\n
Inside a closet in our house sat a photo of him wrapped in a smooth and glossy piece of green cloth. Whenever the house emptied, my mother would sit on the floor and face the closet, gazing at it for the longest time before opening it. Then she\u2019d unfold the green cloth, stare at the photograph and slowly begin weeping. During those times I\u2019d tiptoe next to her and wait for that almost epic moment when she unfolded the cloth and my brother\u2019s face appeared. I watched her watching the picture, watched her crying, and then I would begin crying with her.<\/p>\n
She\u2019d whisper to him, beseech him, scold him and eventually she\u2019d pray for him. Soon I\u2019d lay my head on her shoulder and pray too, asking God to end her grief one day.<\/p>\n
Our ritual lasted the better part of an hour usually. Then she would kiss me, enfold the photo in the green cloth and put it back in its sacred spot in the closet. It was as if during that hour I had taken a break from childhood, and as soon as our ceremony ended, I\u2019d go back to playing and being a kid again. Until of course the next time, when the two of us would meet for another interlude by that closet.<\/p>\n
More years passed that way without any sign of my brother. The newspapers never carried his name. Other men who had also served with him would drop by now and then to offer nothing new to end the waiting. Then one day it happened. By now I was ten years old. I\u2019d just gotten home from school and noticed we had a guest I\u2019d never seen before sitting in the living room. I went into the courtyard to play; some minutes later my mother rushed out screeching at the top of her lungs at her own motherhood: Yumma!<\/em><\/p>\n This was 1994. A warm day just before spring. Those moments in the courtyard were as if something fell apart and was shattered forever. And the weight of the wreck from then on seemed to take over our entire household and inch its way into our collective lives. My parents were told that during recent government searches they\u2019d come upon a bone that carried a chain belonging to my brother. The word bone scared me. Even at school I was afraid to look at a skeleton or read about them in our schoolbooks. Now I was especially afraid to ask about anything that had to do with a bone that belonged to us.<\/p>\n Our world grew silent from then on and within days my mother began to age rapidly. Her eyes no longer had that shine to them, and her face seemed to slowly disappear into itself.<\/p>\n Years later that photograph of my brother found its place on a wall of our house, and later still it became a part of his grave. My mother\u2019s dreams told her that those bones were not my brother\u2019s, nor was that grave containing his remains really his. Still, she visited the site punctually, even if she was still not sure. I\u2019d insist on going with her, and though she didn\u2019t want to she\u2019d let me. I\u2019d squat next to her and wish myself into mourning for a few minutes and then I\u2019d run up the hill playing alone and pretending I was climbing a huge mountain. Soon my mother would call to me and we\u2019d go home together.<\/p>\n The history of my province and my town and my own birth all are somehow merged into the history of that long war \u2014 of night and day raids and rockets and ruin and tears and waiting that so many families shared for so many years afterwards. Yet closure, when it came, never came for my mother. Because sometimes there never really is an ending.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" As this writer from Khuzestan remembers, the long Iran-Iraq war left many traces, names and ghosts in its eight-year wake.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":503,"featured_media":30214,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[16,3211],"tags":[249,867,869,885,3244,1349],"coauthors":[3251,2126],"class_list":["post-30205","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-fiction","category-tmr-37-endings-beginnings","tag-arabic","tag-iran","tag-iran-iraq-war","tag-iraq","tag-khuzestan","tag-persian","entry"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n